Outline:
1. Write it – create a brief one sentence summary of an event you wish to move on from
2. Say it – speak it out
3. Time it – time how long it takes you to say it
4. Drop it – once said, drop it completely in the time it takes to say it
Whatever you need to leave behind you and move on from, which will already be in the past and can only now exist in your thoughts, try this experiment.
Step 1 – Write it
Write out a brief, one sentence summary of the event – no longwinded detail; the shorter the better.
Step 2 – Say it
Speak out your sentence either to yourself or aloud
Step 3 – Time it
Speak the sentence again and time how long it takes you to say it. Make that how long you will spend on the event before dropping it and moving on.
Step 4 – Drop it
Once you have spoken your sentence commit to wasting no more of your valuable time and short life on the event. Once you have spoken your sentence drop the event instantly and completely.
Create your brief sentence so that it hones in on the “meat” of the event without a huge story. An example might be; you break your favourite mug. It’s ruined – you had it 25 years, your prized possession, a real beauty, finely decorated, hand-painted and priceless. Typical, these things always happen to me, whatever I touch – and the story builds and builds. STOP!
1. Write it – I broke my mug, accidents happen, I’ll get another
2. Say it – speak out your sentence
3. Time it – time how long it takes you to say your sentence
4. Drop it – once said, drop it. Not the mug – the event 🙂
Instead of spending hours, even days, thinking about your broken mug, you thrash it out in a simple sentence and drop it, moving on as quickly as the short time it takes to summarise the event.
When creating your brief sentence ideally add a quick summary of the event plus an action that you will carry out.
Keep it simple, respect your time and move on instantly.
The ego in you, which is not personal, will beg you to make more out of it, yet your time is your time and you don’t have to listen to the voice inside your head wanting you to feel sorry for yourself. Rise above the story and move on.
1. Write it
2. Say it
3. Time it
4. Drop it
Why waste any longer than the short time it takes to summarise in one sentence what happened and what you intend to do about it?
If your mind tries to drag you back to the event, after you have completed the four steps try this hard hitting follow up phrase:
“I’m not immortal, so this doesn’t matter”
Summary:
1. Write it
2. Say it
3. Time it
4. Drop it
“I’m not immortal, so this doesn’t matter”
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